Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but where does that put the rest of us?
I think almost every modern woman and man has at some point in their busy lives, looked up from their computer screens, Blackberries and iPods to ponder "mating". We are after all still animals by nature, driven by some innate desire to propagate our species - even though human beings really are in no danger of becoming sparse in its numbers anytime soon.
Today's modern society has really put quite a spin on the whole process. There are movies, books, DVDs, blogs, dating websites - not to mention your best friend dispensing his or her sage wisdom on conquering the opposite sex whether it be for the night or for a married eternity.
"Men and women are just built differently," a good girlfriend tells me. "Men just don't get us. They can't, they're just...different. You know, like men are from Mars, women are from Venus."
So I'm supposed to be a Venutian, which in today's modern era, from what I sometimes gather means:
- I, as the amazing modern superwoman, am supposed to be confident, sexy, independent, strong, sensitive and overall amazingly awesome.
- So much so that men should feel privileged to be in my company and buy me dinner, lavish me with presents, open doors, care and provide for my awesome sexy independence.
- If they don't do the things above, then it's because I'm always falling for the bad boys and losers who don't treat me right for the awesomeness that I am...or they have commitment problems.
- In which case it's better for me to stay single for life than to settle for second best because I am amazing sexy confident and independent.
- Or at least until I hit the "big 3-0" or "3-5" or the ever dreaded "3-7.699"... in which case all bets are off...and my sexy awesome independent self becomes lonely and desperate
- And I will suddenly only be surrounded by married, taken and gay men...
???
Somebody get me a map....I think I took a wrong term around the Milky Way...
Monday, September 7, 2009
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Amen, sister. I never read the book but the way I hear people toss around this whole venus/mars thing convinces me it's just an excuse not to empathize or to try to understand.
ReplyDeleteMen and women are not so different. It's just that after having your gender thrown at you from day 1, (cars to boys, barbies to girls), and after watching generations of deeply entrenched gender misunderstanding, sexism, objectification, and misogyny, whether it's at home, at school/work, or on TV.... of COURSE nobody knows what's going on, and the difference in gender gets blamed. it becomes the explanation, for reasons i'm not convinced are valid. why ask a girl why she's upset if you can just blow her off with "oh she's pms-ing." but haven't we all seen a boy have a hissy fit for seemingly no reason?
i am also so sick of the argument that men are "afraid of commitment" because they're biologically built to spread their seed to as many women as they can. if men wish to maintain their status as "not mindless beasts," and if they're able to hold themselves accountable as to other natural urges, then they can freaking hold themselves accountable on that one too.
anyway enough ranting from me... yay for your blog! i'm interested to see what you post :D